I feel you! And I really feel like after we've abandoned ourselves for so long, as adults, the very first step has to be learning how to belong to ourselves again.
Have I ever gotten it 100% right? Absolutely not. But getting to experience that feeling, even just in moments, is what finally equipped me to tell the difference between a true sense of belonging and just adapting to fit in...
I don't think there is anyone who moved/migrated somewhere else who cannot relate. Honestly. For me it was about not fitting in for the first 18 years of my life, even in my own family.
So when I left home (Morocco) I was determined to get everything I missed out on.
Today I'm still learning to fit in with myself, but had collected some powerful lessons along the way which help not always repeating the same patterns, and sometimes trying something new that makes a real difference.
I noticed as well that it was sometimes bringing me the confidence to be unapologetically without answers! Why do we need an answer to everything?
Sometimes I don't know exactly how I feel, or how to do things differently. Sometimes I ask for help and other times I don't even know how to formulate that ask.
But I've gained the confidence that it's okay, take the time to learn in my own timeline and rhythm and not hate myself for it in the process.
I guess that's what re-writing the rest of our lives might look like?
"not hating ourselves" in the process is the lesson that I continue to learn...how can we love ourselves in those tough moments even more. I relate with everything you shared so much!
Very poignant and relatable. Not sure I've ever belonged, tbh.
I feel you! And I really feel like after we've abandoned ourselves for so long, as adults, the very first step has to be learning how to belong to ourselves again.
Have I ever gotten it 100% right? Absolutely not. But getting to experience that feeling, even just in moments, is what finally equipped me to tell the difference between a true sense of belonging and just adapting to fit in...
Beautifully said...I had several aha moments reading and watching the video 🔥❤️
Thank you!! SO happy to hear 💚
I don't think there is anyone who moved/migrated somewhere else who cannot relate. Honestly. For me it was about not fitting in for the first 18 years of my life, even in my own family.
So when I left home (Morocco) I was determined to get everything I missed out on.
Today I'm still learning to fit in with myself, but had collected some powerful lessons along the way which help not always repeating the same patterns, and sometimes trying something new that makes a real difference.
I noticed as well that it was sometimes bringing me the confidence to be unapologetically without answers! Why do we need an answer to everything?
Sometimes I don't know exactly how I feel, or how to do things differently. Sometimes I ask for help and other times I don't even know how to formulate that ask.
But I've gained the confidence that it's okay, take the time to learn in my own timeline and rhythm and not hate myself for it in the process.
I guess that's what re-writing the rest of our lives might look like?
"not hating ourselves" in the process is the lesson that I continue to learn...how can we love ourselves in those tough moments even more. I relate with everything you shared so much!